ANN ELMORE TRANSITION HOUSE
CAMPBELL RIVER & NORTH ISLAND TRANSITION SOCIETY British Columbia, Canada
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UNDERSTAND WHO THEY ARE
Watch for Negative Behaviour Such As:
- manipulative behaviour
- disrespect toward women
- handles stress poorly
- does not compromise in ideas and perceptions
- monopolizes your time and activities
- orders you around - doesn't ask
- inappropriate authoritative behaviour
- bad manners
- disrespects your family and / or his own family
- drives dangerously
- disrespectful to your feelings and ideas - invalidates you
- takes unnecessary risks
- takes on role in your family without talking it over with you, i.e., assumes the father role to your children
- has a sadistic sense of humour
- humiliates you in public and / or in private
REMEMBER THAT YOUR EMOTIONAL WELL BEING IS VERY IMPORTANT!!!
INCREASE INDIVIDUAL AWARENESS
Watch for Triggers Such As:
- defensiveness
- anger
- jealousy
- aggressiveness
- alcohol and / or drug abuse
- unhealthy competitiveness
- insecurities
- secretiveness
- bad mouthing other people
- unable to show or define emotions
- low self-esteem
- self-destructive behaviours
- emotional instability
BE AWARE AND LISTEN TO YOUR INSTINCTS!!!
INCREASE SELF-AWARENESS
Know Yourself, As in Know:
- your strengths and abilities
- your weaknesses
- your self-esteem
- your history - childhood survival skills
- your mental health - cultivate and learn how to listen to your instincts
- your triggers - good and bad
- your values, ethics and morals
- your importance to yourself and to the people around you
- your comfort level - learn how to say 'no' and to go at your own pace
- your expectations of yourself and others
- your limits
- your communication style
ALWAYS BE TRUTHFUL WITH YOURSELF!!!
UNDERSTAND WHO YOU ARE
Work Through Childhood Issues:
- recognize childhood tapes
- know family of origin's health history - mental, physical and spiritual
- be aware of history or drug / alcohol use
- recognize abusive behaviours - styles of consequences
- understand your family structure and your role in the family
- understand the dynamics of the family
- know family secrets and unspoken rules
- know your survival behaviours - survival skills learned in childhood
- know the role extended family and friends played in your life
- know parents' history
- know family standards, morals and values
- recognize forms of discipline, for example, abuse as opposed to fair discipline
KNOW WHERE YOU CAME FROM SO YOU CAN UNDERSTAND WHERE YOU ARE GOING!!!